I think it is a good idea to foster a child to become himself rather than yourself. Control is about making him be you (the parent). Most children have experiences that are so vastly different from their parents that it is impossible for them to become their parents and trying to make them be is useless and counterproductive. Cause and effect is the real teacher. life is hard, kids need tender love and affection.
I think boundaries have to be placed far enough around children so they can play and make their own mistakes but constrained enough so they don't hurt themselves. I live with 2 teenagers and I definately agree that it is difficult to figure out which behviors and attitudes are acceptable and part of being a teenager that is growning up and which one's need to be "suppressed"
Your a pretty thoughtful person though, I know you'll be an excellent parent. Hope to see you soon, Sage
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Couldn't agree more!!!
Sage
Why do you need to learn that?
Because I'm the parent of a little wild man.
are you sure? I mean I would think controlling a 10 month old is not a fallacy. controlling a teenager, different story.
I think it is a good idea to foster a child to become himself rather than yourself. Control is about making him be you (the parent). Most children have experiences that are so vastly different from their parents that it is impossible for them to become their parents and trying to make them be is useless and counterproductive. Cause and effect is the real teacher. life is hard, kids need tender love and affection.
I think boundaries have to be placed far enough around children so they can play and make their own mistakes but constrained enough so they don't hurt themselves. I live with 2 teenagers and I definately agree that it is difficult to figure out which behviors and attitudes are acceptable and part of being a teenager that is growning up and which one's need to be "suppressed"
Your a pretty thoughtful person though, I know you'll be an excellent parent.
Hope to see you soon,
Sage
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